Are you all well?

John Frum

Secret Society Member
It’s been an incredibly difficult year on multiple, tangential fronts. I’m profoundly not okay. And it’s striking to me how many people I encounter are going through their own unprecedented hell, stacking heartbreaks like cordwood, often just out of sight of their social media presence.

I think the Romans had a term for years like this... Anus horribilis... Horrible butthole...
 

JohnVF

Administrator
Staff member
By the measures of having a job and paying our bills and being at least healthy on the surface I'm doing ok. By every other measure, no, I'm not doing that great. I'm mentally exhausted from everything going on in my country (America), I'm exhausted by being on 8-10 hours of video calls everyday having to pretend that everything is normal and that all the normal work demands still matter as much as they did prior to everything that's going on this year, and then also feeling extremely guilty for feeling this way when I'm absolutely blessed to still have such a good job where all I have to do is stare at a computer for 8-10 hours a day, as mind-frying as that can be.. I have it better than so many others, and yet I'm completely burnt out, yet know many would kill to be in my positions so I try to put on a happy face...but then there's also the dread of what's to come this fall and winter here...they just locked down our restaurants again, so many will be out of work, out of their homes...our government couldn't care less it seems...it's just so disheartening.

I hope you all are doing ok, I really do.
 

Tedrick

Junior Member
We're doing okay, and I feel very fortunate to have been able to continue working uninterrupted. Our youngest son (senior in college) gave us a scare a couple weeks ago when one of his roommates developed flu-like symptoms, but thankfully they all tested negative for COVID19. However, between no vacation other than national holidays since last Christmas, a government that seems hellbent on infecting us all, and stupid people who don't seem to give a shit about anyone other then themselves and their own pleasure, I'm most definitely suffering from burnout over this whole stinking mess.
 

Audionut

Next Round Is On Me
Went through quite a bit so far but am alive, have my family and health. Blessed as things could always be worst.
Sending positive thoughts to all, this too shall pass.
 
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marantzfan

Administrator
Staff member
By the measures of having a job and paying our bills and being at least healthy on the surface I'm doing ok. By every other measure, no, I'm not doing that great. I'm mentally exhausted from everything going on in my country (America), I'm exhausted by being on 8-10 hours of video calls everyday having to pretend that everything is normal and that all the normal work demands still matter as much as they did prior to everything that's going on this year, and then also feeling extremely guilty for feeling this way when I'm absolutely blessed to still have such a good job where all I have to do is stare at a computer for 8-10 hours a day, as mind-frying as that can be.. I have it better than so many others, and yet I'm completely burnt out, yet know many would kill to be in my positions so I try to put on a happy face...but then there's also the dread of what's to come this fall and winter here...they just locked down our restaurants again, so many will be out of work, out of their homes...our government couldn't care less it seems...it's just so disheartening.

I hope you all are doing ok, I really do.

Can I just say +1?

I am a regional revenue manager for a major hotel chain. My industry is really suffering and I talk to these folks about their financial situations all day. By some projections, without some relief 1 in 3 hotels in the US will be in bankruptcy in the next 3 months. My job is to help these folks to make more money....and that’s hard to do when demand has dropped by 30% or more over last year.

It’s draining but as John said my job is secure and the people I support have it way worse then I do.
 

Wntrmute2

Not So Mediocre Member
I am also not OK. I retired early to avoid exposure to Covid at the hospital. I have a number of health issues that put me at very high risk Financially we are OK but emotionally I'm a wreck. Racked with guilt and sadness. I am so distraught over the incompetence of the leaders at the top while my fellow health care workers put their lives in the line day after day. I am sad that we will probably lose the ACA and I'll have to go back to work when my COBRA runs out seemingly because the president and his party doesn't like anything done by Obama. I'm worried about Roe vs Wade since I believe in the right of privacy and believe health care decisions belong between patient and Drs/ nurses. I am unhappy that our government has chosen sides when making decisions. We do one thing for "red" states while demonizing the rest. Our current White House occupant has spent the last 4 years running this country like his business and lying to us all constantly.
We as a people would rather believe in an anonymous individual on the internet spewing conspiracy theories than think critically.
I am having trouble sleeping or talking or even watching TV. I am on the verge of tears and have a lump in my throat almost always.
I am still enjoying my music and especially my projects which you guys have been so helpful and generous. To a person - you all are helping me avoid total collapse.
 

MrEd

Senior Nobody
I am lucky to be working and business is ok to good, commissions are mediocre but steady.
My wife lost part of her income stream to covid, so that has put a damper on things.
Overall healthy and good.
I think she is having more struggle than I emotionally , I have always been able to bounce back and move along with out too much bothering me.
I have great compassion for the people suffering from loss of family and the also from job loss. I owned my business for 20 plus years and am glad I made that change just a few years ago and am not dealing with all the issues facing small businesses today.
I hope everyone here can get through t his ok.
 

Fran604g

Just Call Me Junior
We're doing great. Although the consensus seems that most aren't, my wife has had no interruption working, as well our adult children haven't been very affected other than our eldest son and dil having to zoom their classes. Particularly this has been a problem with our dil because she's a speech pathologist working with impaired children, some who are severely impaired.

Ironically the biggest problem my wife, second oldest son and youngest daughter have is obtaining qualified employees who want to work. I'd think with unemployment being as large as it is it would be easier to find help, but that hasn't been the case.

Hang in there y'all, this too shall pass.
 

ColinWonfor

Junior Member
I am also due to crap health issue stuck in doors but I have a log cabin to play in. My wife Maria works as a pharmacist for the NHS she see stupid prats everyday caring less about other and no mask or washing of hands and in some case any parts.
Here poor devils are losing homes jobs and not being able to pay for food, and on top of that family and friends dying. All that alone is pure depression fodder. We have lost now 3 family members and a few friends, I can't go to see Mum has she is 86 and since March she has got more poorly due bad ticker. And I still have to go for check up in hospital every two week after being tested two day before visit, the London hospital are getting poor sods in everyday and they are dying and it not the stupid idiots but nice folk that are suffering.
Lets just shot the morons in this world.
Listen to some of this man work cheers me up a lot.

Andreas Vollenweider & Friends
 

JoeThePop

Known member
oh dead
By the measures of having a job and paying our bills and being at least healthy on the surface I'm doing ok. By every other measure, no, I'm not doing that great. I'm mentally exhausted from everything going on in my country (America), I'm exhausted by being on 8-10 hours of video calls everyday having to pretend that everything is normal and that all the normal work demands still matter as much as they did prior to everything that's going on this year, and then also feeling extremely guilty for feeling this way when I'm absolutely blessed to still have such a good job where all I have to do is stare at a computer for 8-10 hours a day, as mind-frying as that can be.. I have it better than so many others, and yet I'm completely burnt out, yet know many would kill to be in my positions so I try to put on a happy face...but then there's also the dread of what's to come this fall and winter here...they just locked down our restaurants again, so many will be out of work, out of their homes...our government couldn't care less it seems...it's just so disheartening.

I hope you all are doing ok, I really do.

+2 on this. I too have had the benefit of working from home and haven’t missed a day. My family is well, but the daily stress from my job and a teenage daughter with pretty severe anxiety issues (normal for 16?) has left me burned out also. Add to that multiple appliance failures, two old POS cars that seem to develop a new problem weekly and I feel like I could snap at any moment. Probably a good thing I’m not doing my normal rush hour commute.
 

Thermionics

Post Whore In Training
I'm working more (I'm in tech, so WFH is a thing, but establishing boundaries between work & life is hard) and am dealing with similar issues as John. I'm white-knuckling about the election, COVID, my kids high school education, my wife (who is immunosuppressed), and my Mom (my Dad passed away September 22). Stress is not helping my HBP, which makes me more at risk for complications from COVID, which in turn contributes to my stress levels.

And a fucking coyote burrowed under the fence and grabbed one of my hens yesterday. That doesn't help.
 

S0und Dragon

Moderator and Circus Hand.
Staff member
I am always vacillating between Good and My life is on Fire. That said, I am more than willing to lend a moment to anyone in need of a friendly voice and receptive ear. Just hit me up here and we can work something out.
 

Wntrmute2

Not So Mediocre Member
I'm working more (I'm in tech, so WFH is a thing, but establishing boundaries between work & life is hard) and am dealing with similar issues as John. I'm white-knuckling about the election, COVID, my kids high school education, my wife (who is immunosuppressed), and my Mom (my Dad passed away September 22). Stress is not helping my HBP, which makes me more at risk for complications from COVID, which in turn contributes to my stress levels.

And a fucking coyote burrowed under the fence and grabbed one of my hens yesterday. That doesn't help.
Sounds difficult. I feel your stress.
 

Thermionics

Post Whore In Training
Sounds difficult. I feel your stress.
And, just to add the poop nugget on top of the 2020 sundae, just got an alert from the bank that someone skimmed our credit card and racked up $1,600 worth of charges this morning.

 

ColinWonfor

Junior Member
And, just to add the poop nugget on top of the 2020 sundae, just got an alert from the bank that someone skimmed our credit card and racked up $1,600 worth of charges this morning.


That happen to me and Maria on holiday in Madeira, stool £6K from credit card and £12K from the other left us stranded and that weekend we wanted to go home quick as our friend Les died suddenly leaving his disable wife alone and not card for. Thank god for lovely friends like Alan who sent us money so we could eat. The Police caught the B_______D after we left he was from Romania and tried to use my card to by a watch for his girl friend, unfortune struck him a Police man friend was in the shop and when the shop owner said Mr, Wonfor you card as been rejected he was arrested. but all the money was gone and the bank insurance said it was a act of God so no pay out.
 

airdronian

Radar Member
I guess this is the Haven sanity check, courtesy of @ColinWonfor . He's a good lad.

Our household is doing ok, we are much more fortunate than many others. No real change in the last several months, no sickness. I don't work and my wife works from home in these Covid times, on the occasion she does need to go in to the office (like today) they have protocols in place to help protect employees. Which they actually follow; a benefit of working in a municipal government office where OH&S is taken seriously.

That said, these are troubling times. It's hard to watch our neighbours to the south collectively twisting in the wind waiting for a positive result in their election. Our provincial government is largely bankrupt; due in part to the collapse of the oil & gas industry, but equally due to the lack of vision by a government which refused to consider that the market for these resources might change one day. As usual when times are tight they are going after health care in an effort to save money. They also want to revive the coal mining industry, which is the last thing we need if there is any serious thought about combating global warming. Much like elsewhere in Canada, Covid is spiking here again.

And like @ColinWonfor, I have a Mum in hospital. She spent most of 2020 in a care facility (without visitors) trying to heal from the broken leg that occurred from a fall. She's 88 and has had severe arthritis for a very long time. She's just too brittle and can no longer heal normally. Mum got out in August and had made some progress with physio which was encouraging. Until yesterday when I got the call that another fall had happened, striking her head and breaking an elbow. Back in hospital with no visitors. They're monitoring the swelling on her brain, and I'm told they aren't going to do anything with the elbow except let her try and heal naturally. No pins or screws, since her bones aren't in good shape.

I did manage to talk to her yesterday, but she wasn't really herself. It's hard.
 

ColinWonfor

Junior Member
Gents, please share as you need, but let’s keep politics out of it. Politics is too divisive a situation now to be able to think we can discuss it peacefully even here.

I am not voting Covid 19 it,s a stinker.
Wise words Prime Minister Sir
 
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JohnVF

Administrator
Staff member
And, just to add the poop nugget on top of the 2020 sundae, just got an alert from the bank that someone skimmed our credit card and racked up $1,600 worth of charges this morning.

Hopefully since the bank called you they don't hold you to those charges. I've had that happen and they just removed them, but it was for a bit less. "John, did you buy a wedding dress in Boston right after getting gas in Illinois?"
 
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