I similarly use turntables as a distraction from day to day life. My job is stressful and exists in a 'creative' field where there's no real answer other than what I come up with out of thin air. And frankly, I'm exhausted from it. Mentally tired. And so with a turntable, the result of my tinkering and experimentation is a bit subjective, but also has tangible results and 'right' ways to do things. It doesn't require a lot of thought, just knowledge of how to do something. You can't get creative with the mounting distance of a tonearm. Or tracking angle or overhang. You can largely turn your mind off and just work towards a goal, in this case, a sound.
And so this is one reason why I'm not after one setup, one cart or one of anything. I use it as a sort of therapy. And when I get a particularly difficult cart to sound good, I feel I've done something.
I was listening to my Empire EDR.9 this morning, and it was sounding great, which made me very happy. It took learning about the cart, buying an example, then tracking down a healthier stylus when that example turned out to have more hours than assumed. Then it took finding a great arm match for it, and working with the tonearm to get the best out of it, and learning how to use a few tools and also just having the right tools. Plus there's some satisfaction in getting these old things to sound as good or better than new things. To have made something work without contributing to the rat-race of new-consumption.